Simple trick to determine what you want in life

Do you often wonder what more you could be doing with your life? Have you ever questioned why you continue to go along with your everyday routine if you don’t really enjoy it? What if you could wake up every single day excited and energised?

It’s this constant questioning of ‘what if?’ which forces us to question our abilities and purpose in life and in some cases, can become mentally damaging.

But human behaviorist and personal development coach Dr John Demartini tells Healthy-ish co-hosts Maz Compton and Dr Sam Hay, that he has devised a ’13 criteria’ every person can use to help them decide what their true purpose in life is:

  • How do you feel your space?
  • How do you spend your time?
  • What energizes you?
  • Where do you spend your money?
  • Where are you most organised and ordered?
  • Where are you most disciple and focused and you need no motivation to do it?
  • How would you love your life to be?
  • What do you visualise and affirm within your head with internal dialogue about how you want your life?
  • What do you converse with other people about the most?
  • What do you talk to people able the most?
  • What is it that inspires you and what’s common to the people that inspires you? What brings a tear to your eye?
  • What are the three most consistent and persistent goals you have?
  • What is it you love studying, reading, listening and learning about the most?

Answering the above “quality questions” will help you enter a phase of “reflective awareness” that will guide you in the right direction.

“Every individual lives by a set of priorities, a set of values in their life,” Demartini explains on Healthy-ish episode 58, ‘This is why we behave the way we do.’

“Whatever is highest on their values is what they’re simultaneously inspired and called from within to act. And whatever is low on their value, they need motivation on the outside to act.”

It sounds simple, but it’s invaluable advice from a man who has defied all odds. Not only was Demartini constrained to an arm and leg brace for the first four years of his life, but was also told in first grade at school that he “would never be able to read or write, communicate and never go that far in life.”

Now, he’s one of the most successful human behaviour coaches who has been “blessed to read over 30,000 books”, written 300 books, travelled 17 million miles and reached 3.5 billion people through his teachings.

Throughout the years, Dr Demartini has identified a common dilemma which has stopped human beings from pursuing their goals.

“Many people have an internal conflict between what they feel really called and loved to do – the difference they want to make in the world – and then the ‘shoulds’, ‘ought tos’, ‘got tos’, ‘have tos’ and ‘musts’, and all this stuff from individual or collective authorities that surround them.

“Breaking free and through the constraints that are perceived and imposed from the outside, liberates them to be themselves.”

He points out that we all have the ability to ‘do’ and ‘be’ great, but we won’t realise this until we take the time to self-reflect.

“You are spontaneously inspired within to do it and you don’t require external motivation to do it. Once a person finds that, they take off their new trajectory and they do something amazing.”

Want to hear about Dr Demartini’s incredible personal growth story? To listen to episode 58 of Healthy-ish above, at Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts from.

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